Our culture puts a tremendous amount of pressure on us to look or be happy all the time.
It's not really socially acceptable to be sad.
And so we pretend we are happy.
We feel shame about our sadness.
We feel lonely when we are down and think "something must be wrong with me."
It's not realistic for you to be happy all the time.
Sadness is an emotion we all feel.
In this podcast, Anna talks about accepting sadness and what to do about it so that you can stop feeling guilty or wrong for not feeling happy all the time.
This a visualization process to help you remove mental and emotional barriers and create a bright future. So if you’re walking or you’re driving, make sure you do this when you get home and you can be in the comfort of your own home and you can have your eyes closed so you can really receive the benefits of this visualization. It’s really an amazing visualization and I can’t wait to share it with you.
Make sure that you’re seated comfortably with your back straight and relaxed. And gently close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nostrils and exhale through your nostrils. And again, in through your nose and out through your nose. And one more breath centering yourself; take a deep inhale and exhale, letting your belly relax.
Picture yourself entering a time machine, almost like a little glass helicopter where you can see through it – and see yourself step into this time machine and close the glass door. And you can see in front of you, you can see to the left and to the right and behind you. And we’re just going to take this helicopter back into time at the beginning of your life, starting fairly early on at your earliest experiences.
And imagine as if we’re at the beginning of your life and you’re just sitting there in your helicopter. And everything that has happened throughout your life is organized as if they are records filed one memory next to the other record. And you can see these records all the way up until now.
And go back to the earliest painful child memory that you can remember. Maybe it was when somebody made fun of you, maybe it was when you got a bad grade, maybe when you messed something up or dropped something in your home or you got in a fight with your sister or brother or you had some type of injury. Go back to any painful early memory, and we’re just going to take the helicopter and we’re going to guide it right over that record. And then we’re going to go down as if we have a claw and pick up that record, and then we’re going to throw it out. And what’s left there now is empty space.
And then go to the next painful memory that you had. Maybe it was around food, maybe it was how you looked, or how well you did in school, or maybe it was with your friends or socially. And we’re going to pick up that record. We’re going to go down with our handy-dandy helicopter, and we’re going to reach down with the claw and pick up that record and just throw it out. And now there’s empty space there.
And go to your next painful memory. Maybe it was in a sports arena, maybe it was performing, maybe it was just something that somebody said to you. And we’re going to move our helicopter over that record and reach down and pick up that record and throw it out. And now there’s empty space there.
And one by one for the next minute recall experiences that you can remove that caused you pain or suffering mentally and emotionally. And move your helicopter over that record and reach down and throw it out.
And then again moving forward, sometime in adolescence, high school, college that was uncomfortable or painful for you mentally and emotionally, - maybe it was a relationship didn’t work out … and we’re going to move our helicopter and reach down and throw that one out. And now we have empty space there.
And then we’re going to continue on in some early adult experience; something didn’t work out the way that you wanted it to or thought that it would or had hoped that it should. And we’re going to reach down, pick up that record, and throw it out. And now you have empty space there.
And now what I want you to do is just look back at all of these records. And the places that have gaps, that have empty space because we removed those events and experiences from your subconscious, imagine as if a bright white light was shining through those spaces. Imagine this light getting brighter and that anything from your past that is no longer serving you is just dissolved with this bright white light.
Imagine your past being bright. Make it even brighter.
Fill your whole body up with this bright light, beaming white, and clear energy. Throughout your whole body.
And now as you look towards your future, make your future light up really bright.
Think about and bring to mind an event or experience that you want to manifest. Being yourself fully expressed with nothing holding you back…. What does your purpose look like? Bring it into your attention and see yourself being your best as if it is happening now. What would you be feeling? How would you be acting?
Imagine all the barriers that are in front of you are simply dissolving and all your problems are being solved for you. You’re fully connecting with the truth that’s within your heart… and from that place see yourself connecting with those around you. You are being guided.
What would you be doing? See yourself connecting with others from a place of confidence and certainty. You are NOT a manager of circumstances. You are the creator of your life.
And as you continue to move forward on your path breaking through any fear or resistance that arises, knowing that you have a purpose, connecting with your heart – knowing you are on the path to greatness.
Anxiety is a future worry. To first learn to name when it's arising and recognize you are not present in the moment. To then focus attention on something in the moment, I.e., the Breath. Slowing down breathing. Feeling the belly expand. When we are anxious we are typically breathing in our chest - so to consciously move the breath down into the belly. Or to feel your feet on the ground - your toes are the furthest from your brain so it can get you out of your head.
Transforming Anxiety Process:
When you are anxious - where in your body do you feel it? What happens to your posture? What happens to your thoughts - are they fast or slow? What does it feel like? Describe the sensations in the body. If you could see it as an image, what would it look like? If someone were to walk into the room when you are anxious would they see the image? Where does anxiety exist? Most people say "in my mind" and if it’s in your mind, you have the power to change it. So then they are switching from anxious to empowered. Recall an event or experience when you felt empowered, what did it feel like? How did you hold your body? What do you remember thinking? How do you get empowered (name of person) to show up more often? (Create a trigger).
Emotions are very important in any individual’s life. If we cannot master our emotions, we cannot master our life. They play a big role in our everyday life and in the things that we do and why we do. Whenever we want something external, it is because we want to fulfill some type of emotion, we want to feel something.
Take a moment, pause and see how they are feeling at the moment. This is called the ‘Purpose Pause’. Many times, we don’t notice how we are feeling, we don’t take the time to explore our feelings and to investigate them. We fail to realize we have the power to shift our emotional state and that is what emotional empowerment is all about.
Start investigating your thoughts. Many of us live in a state of autopilot, we don’t even realize if we are thinking something or not. We tend to keep ourselves occupied with past thoughts and it is like telling the same story again and again or playing the same song again and again. We stop thinking. We forget about the origination of thoughts. The ultimate fact is that we are the creator of our own thoughts.
If you want to improve your thought process and thus improve your quality of life, the first step is to become aware of your thoughts, because if you cannot aware yourself with your thoughts, you cannot change them.
Wayne Dyer, an American philosopher, motivational speaker and an author wrote a book ‘Change your thoughts – Change your life’ in which he talks about the same idea. It really starts with you having a self-talk and changing your thoughts.
Anytime you feel negative ask yourself what are you thinking? What story am I telling myself?
Just notice the thought, investigate if the thought is a story. Find out for yourself if the story you are telling yourself is true or not.
Ask yourself questions related to your thoughts. The quality of our questions dictates the quality of our lives. Changing your thoughts can literally change the quality of your life.
Try to look at things differently if you feel like a negative thought has occupied your mind. Do not suppress negative emotions, but when you are in a feeling of pain, try to think from a different perspective. We all have limiting thoughts but we need to work on improving the quality of our thoughts and the first step is to become aware and then investigate and then see what really is true. In the end, replace your original thought with a higher quality thought which is a thought that makes you feel better. It has a profound difference in your life. You will see the difference slowly but it will be very effective.
There is an exercise called the model of human functioning, you can get it by entering your name and email below.
Download the worksheet: annagoldstein.com/results
You start at the lower left corner of the page and mention your negative thoughts, you write about how those thoughts make you feel. Then you write about your behavior because of those thoughts. What actions do you take? Then you talk about the outcomes of manifesting these thoughts. After that you write in the upper right-hand corner what is the result that you want? The result could be anything from getting into a relationship to losing weight, to starting a new business or building a website for your business.
Remember your thoughts are not always true. Most of the times they are something that has been formed years ago, that is not serving you now. You can create new thoughts and transform your life.