Today’s guest is body-mind coach Laura Wieck. She is a licensed massage therapist, certified coach and mentor who is dedicated to helping massage therapists, body workers and holistic practitioners create thriving and abundant businesses. In today’s episode we explore the body-mind connection and learn how to listen to what your body is communicating with you so you can use that wisdom to make decisions to move you forward in your life.
Body-mind coaching is the combination of massage or body work with a structured coaching conversation to help clients and help people address the physical and emotional aspects of their stress so they can live more connected to themselves, more connected to their community and more connected in their own lives.
We need to ask ourselves “how can I improve?” instead of “what’s wrong with me?” or “why can’t I do this?” We need to reframe it and come from a curious place with a positive intention and then seek the answers to what we’re looking for.
How does stress on the body impact the mind?
Our society idolizes thinking, knowledge, wisdom and logic to the point where the brain controls everything. The way we’re actually wired with this body mind connection is that it goes both ways. One of the main nerves that go from the brain down into the body is called the vagus nerve. 20% of input goes from the brain down into the body but 80% of input goes from the body to the brain. There is more information coming up then there is going down.
Enteric nervous system
We have a second brain in our body called the enteric nervous system that rests on the base of our pelvic flood. It controls the digestive track but it is also constantly picking up environmental data running through our body as well as chemical reactions and sending that information up to the brain. When your body feels off it’s sending a message to your brain.
In our culture where we have to think things through and be logical, when things don’t go our way and our body is sending a signal to us that we need to adjust we tend to fight that. Then we are out of flow and feel disconnected and it’s like our body and mind are fighting each other. We’ve been raised to be logical and make logical decisions but somewhere on that list is a line that says “this just feels right”. That line is your body talking and it carries so much more weight than you can logically come up with. The second brain in our body that’s sending information to our brain is collecting more information than our conscience brain can compute.
When you have a gut feeling you can’t describe it’s because you don’t have the logical language associated with it. The gut feeling is more logical then anything your brain can come up with. Follow your gut instinct.
The feeling of purpose
Purpose is attached to the feeling of being free. There’s a freedom to it that’s very inspiring and elevated. It comes from the body first but it’s not just about positive affirmations and suddenly feeling perfect. You take it one step at a time. Find something that feels honest for you and make the shift from there. Your purpose is about feeling free to be you.
How to connect with Laura
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My guest today is Margot Machol Bisnow. She is the author of Raising an Entrepreneur: 10 Rules for Nurturing Risk Takers, Problem Solvers, and Change Makers. Reading this book has been an awesome experience for me because it’s such a nice blend of where I’m at being an entrepreneur and also having a one-and-a-half year old son. This book really resonated for me at this point in my life and I can’t wait to dive into this material here.
Story behind the book
Margot had no intention of writing a book. In 2008 her son Elliott started Summit Series which are conferences for young entrepreneurs. Through that Margot started meeting a lot of young entrepreneurs and hearing their stories. They all said they had a mom who believed in them. This stuck with Margot and she told her kids, who encouraged her to write a book.
Many parents fear their kids won’t make money if they follow their passion and many adults have the same fear. If you are doing something you love you are going to be better at it because you are going to work harder. You will be more successful than if you end up doing something you don’t love and just go through the motions.
There are several stories in the book about parents who had kids with quirky passions. The parent’s friends ridiculed them for letting their kids pursue those passions, but those kids are hugely successful today.
Let go and relax and trust the process and don’t force people to do things they don’t love. People today would rather make less money doing something they love than to make more money sitting in some windowless office doing something they hate and waiting until they retire. Parents are well meaning but they need to stop being so practical and let their kids follow their passion.
Finding your purpose
Everyone needs someone who believes in them. Some people are strong enough to believe in themselves without outside support but for most people it takes somebody (parent, grandparent, uncle, mentor, teacher, etc) to say “you have talent, you should go for that.”
Often what happens is people get interested in something so they examine it closely and realize something is missing. There is some way it could be done differently or modified and that’s how they end up with an idea for a business.
Margo was not an entrepreneur. She spent twenty years in the government, mostly in political positions involving international development. She was setting up economic think tanks in Eastern Europe in the 90’s and things like that. For the last eight years she has done an online daily social newsletter about life in Washington D.C. What she is doing now is a totally different experience for her.
The process of how people become entrepreneurs varies all over the map:
Is this personality and mindset something you can teach?
You can’t make someone an entrepreneur. Most of the people in the book have siblings and most of their siblings are not entrepreneurs. A parent can’t force it on somebody. If you have that internal disposition then there are definitely things your family can do to give you the confidence and the courage to put it all on the line.
Lead by Following
There are a lot of articles that say things like “here’s how to make your kid an entrepreneur!” but they miss the whole point. You shouldn’t make your child anything. You should let your child be and see who your child is and listen to your child. Everybody is born with passions and strengths. So often these passions and strengths get squashed by the time they are in high school because these poor kids are trying so hard to please their parents and give their parents what they think their parents want. As a result who they are and what they love just gets buried.
Listen to your child and see what they love and then nurture and support it. Every child is different and has something they are good at.
When your child is six weeks old write down who you think they are. Go back and read it every five years and you will see that you nailed it. They come out who they are. You nurture that but they come out who they are.
My guest today is my mentor Mastin Kipp. He is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and peak performance coach.
The first time I saw Mastin was in 2009 while watching Oprah Winfrey’s life webcast. He was on there twice but the first time there was technical difficulties so he didn’t get to ask his question.
Before the show they sent him an Oprah Skype kit that came in a black box, told him he had to be somewhere with great internet, made sure his background and clothes were just right and gave him a list of questions that were going to be asked. A lot of anticipation went into a twenty-second moment. Then when Oprah asked “Mastin Kipp what’s your question?” and he started to talk it immediately cut away from him because of technical difficulties. He thought the world was over. But the producers called him and said they wanted to have him back on the next day and it worked out.
How Mastin went from couch surfing to being on Oprah:
When people ask Mastin how he did it he says he really doesn’t know, other than publishing and being consistent and focusing on serving people.
Being in “the zone”
The night before being on Oprah he and the people in his group did some yoga to get their mind right and calm. Then when he got there and the lights were on it’s like he went over here and something else came forward. It’s the same anytime he is speaking whether at seminars, retreats or coaching sessions. It’s an altered state that he has learned to trust. When you’re in that room with people and can follow that intuitive voice and let it speak through you you will serve the other people in the room.
Mastin avoids inflammatory foods and sugary substances. He makes sure his body is taken care of and he exercises before he goes on stage.
It’s something you have to practice. When Mastin was a music manager he was always focused on cultivating talent at the highest level. When they would work with “baby bands” (bands that are not known, aren’t on the radio, don’t have a following yet) there were certain things they would have them do and one of them was to play as many live shows as possible to get their live game down. In the music business you live or die by your touring capabilities.
When he decided to get into speaking he booked a bunch of gigs. In the last seven years he’s done around 500 events. At some point in 2014 he did around 35 shows in 37 days and about halfway through that tour he stopped caring about what the audience thought. He was so tired he just didn’t care anymore. What’s interesting is the response went up after that.
You have to practice because if you’re in your head you are thinking about what you have to say versus just trusting what’s going to come through.
Mastin’s biggest struggle
Mastin suffered for a long time with a fear of being seen. When he was a music manager he was hiding behind his clients. But at some point you have to own your name, go out and teach and be seen. That is something he put off for a long time. His other big struggle was with pre-diabetes.
Living your life purpose versus ego fantasy
You can have your ego’s version of your dream which is usually born from disconnection and insecurity and trying to overcompensate for those two things. You can get all the money and fame and not be fulfilled.
If you’re going to talk about living your life’s purpose it’s about two things.
2. Becoming aware of your emotional state
Purpose is not something you do, purpose is generating the feelings you want to feel inside yourself, connecting to a higher power and then with that sense of abundant emotional energy bringing those emotions into the world in the form of courses or books or a business or a relationship or whatever it might be.
A Course in Miracles says every comment either comes from love or a cry for help. If you have that perspective when you receive negative feedback it makes it easier to say this person must be in pain. Extract the truth, get rid of the projection, and move on.
It’s an amateur mindset to say “it’s easy for you because you’re there”. Anyone who is there has gone through a lot to get there. If you want to step out of the amateur mindset what you really want to say is “what did they do to get there?” Then make it a priority to model them and eventually you will produce the same results.
Thank you for joining us today.
Today’s guest is Susie Moore. Susie is an advisor to high growth start ups in Silicon Valley and New York City. She is also a business coach, life coach and author who specializes in advising and inspiring entrepreneurs on how to find their passion, find their side hustle and make an impact and a fortune. Her first book What If It Does Work Out? debuted as an Amazon best seller. In it she shares secrets to transform your passion into cash, pulling from her successful career as a Fortune 500 sales director. She also has helped build three different start ups, all of which were sold, the most recent being sold for $405 million. She has been featured on The Today Show, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Forbes, Times Inc, Mind Body Green and a host of other media outlets and is the resident life coach for Greatest. Susie’s insights have been shared by fact leaders including Ariana Huffington and Spanx founder Sarah Blakely.
Principal behind side hustle
Originally Susie thought people would want to start side hustles to make more money. Initially that is what people were coming to her for in coaching. They were asking how to make money doing things on the side, how to launch, get started, come up with an idea. But increasingly she saw people who were taking her courses and reaching out to her who wanted to contribute in a meaningful way. Don’t be boxed in and cornered. Find that side hustle not just financially but be creative and learn something completely on your own time. We want to have that self expression, we want to have the fulfillment and in our jobs we might not be getting that and we want to fill that need ourself and then in turn make money. Money is often something that keeps people stuck in their quote unquote day job.
It’s a very difficult decision to leave your job and start your own business. Susie had a career in Ad sales for over a decade which she enjoyed but she knew it wasn’t her life’s work. She didn’t make a cold leap but created her business over time. When she started attracting clients on a consistent basis and making money she knew it could be viable. Eventually she got to the point financially where she could take a risk but it was still very scary.
Everyone has fear but we manage it differently. Fear comes in everyone’s life so it’s important to remember that everyone feels the same. It’s normal so give yourself a break when you feel afraid. Susie has a trick she uses where she will reflect on her past achievements when she needs that boost of feeling like she can do it and it’s going to go well. Remember to be present. At the end of the day we’re all just passing through life. We’re all going to die so don’t take everything so seriously.
Asking for help
A lot of people think asking for help is not a very empowered thing to do but it’s actually an empowered thing to do. Sometimes we get scared and have pride and think we should already know that. We also don’t want to bother people. There’s a lot of reasons we don’t ask for help. We feel ashamed and we feel guilty but asking is such a common quality in successful people
Best advice you’ve been given
You don’t have to do what your parents did or what your peer group does. It’s okay to think in proportion to the dreams you have. What do you want?