The key to positive transformation lies in realization of our own feelings. We have to be curious and willing to know what exactly is going in our hearts. We have to be more open at our heart. How often it is that we disagree with somebody’s opinion and close up our hearts, draw our opinions about that person without giving a second thought. This only results in disconnection however all humans, at the core of their heart, want love and connection.
This podcast is about feeling our feelings and learning to respond instead of react. It can be challenging when we find ourselves in situations where we see things differently than others. What we need to think about is where are these negative feelings coming from? It seems like the feelings are coming from the outside but the reality is, all these thoughts and feelings come from the inside. These feelings are a complete reflection of what and how we think in a certain situation.
Every time we are carried away with negative emotion, we can investigate what we are thinking which makes us feel in a certain way. We are all imperfect, we cannot be happy all the time; we cannot be perfect all the time. Negativity gets in the way but what is important is to stick with your feelings, be there, and know the reason for a particular feeling in a particular situation that is something very important. If we stick with our feelings and
Whenever we disagree with someone, find ourselves in uncomfortable situations, we should stick to our feelings, befriend our feelings because if we can befriend our feelings we can change them into something good for ourselves and bring about positive transformation.
Jordana Jaffe shares her journey of how she was able to convert a Facebook group into a very large online community. Jordana has been an entrepreneur for almost 10 years and in that time, she says she has almost chosen everything. She was once a professional organizer then chose to be a business coach after which she stumbled upon life coaching.
Jordana recalls how she started her Facebook group and that it was unplanned. She says Facebook groups chose her and not the other way around. She started her Facebook group in October 2014 and saw it a way to build a community. Jordana describes herself as a “compulsive community creator”. She says she previously tried to do the same offline and ultimately felt a bit of a burnout. Jordana describes herself as an introvert and that was the only reason why she could not be successful in creating a community while offline. Facebook groups feature has enabled Jordana to do what she really loves without having to deal with her introversion. She felt like she was meant to do this and loved how she could connect with people sitting at her home, doing some other task concurrently and giving everyone including herself a platform to interact. Jordana says she never had any strategy of managing her Facebook group. It was something she loved and always enjoyed posting and interacting with other people. When Facebook groups became a norm in 2015 and almost everyone was either creating a group or becoming a part of it, naturally many new users joined Jordana’s group as well. She did not get overwhelmed by the ever-increasing users in her group, in fact enjoyed the experience.
How she manages the group
Since the group has grown into a very large community and it is almost impossible for a single person to manage the group, Jordana has an assistant along with whom she manages the group. They make sure every activity in the group is according to the rules. They also make sure everyone gets their questions answered in the group. The group has almost 11,000 members now and Jordana believes what is most important for her is to make sure everyone feels like they are a part of this group and are engaged in the group one way or another.
We talk about Jordana’s journey as an entrepreneur and how for so many people it could have been overwhelming after trying out many things and not finding what they feel like they are meant to do. She says she has yet to find an entrepreneur who has had a same journey like her, moving from one profession to another and not losing hope and determination.
Message for people starting a Facebook group
She says one should always have a good reason as to why they want to start a Facebook group. Many people do not give enough time to this question. Many people see other people doing this or hear it from a business/life coach and end up creating a Facebook group. More than often, these people find themselves in situations they are not prepared for. Jordana says different platforms like Facebook groups, webinars, twitter and instagram do no make you successful but the energy that you put in matters the most. The question you have to ask yourself is if Facebook groups is something, you really want to do. The question should always be “what lights you up the most?” and then go after it.
How much time she spent in the group
Back in 2014 when Jordana started the group, she spent a lot of time in her group. She says she was committed to responding to every single comment in her group. Back then, it was easy as there were not many people in her group. She would post 4 times a day, comment a lot and spent countless hours. Now in 2016, since the group has changed into something very different than what it used to be, Jordana says she does not really post every day but makes sure she checks the group every day.
You can connect with Jordana on internet in following ways
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/gdanamagicalbusiness/
Sue shares a very personal story in this podcast, which transformed her life into something she could have never imagined. Sue is the founder of I Forgive You Mobile App. She has also written a book titled “Unlocking true happiness.”
Sue’s life took a 180-degree turn in January 2012 when her father was brutally attacked in his home in a robbery. Her father went into coma and never fully recovered from the injuries he sustained from the attack. It took three months for her father to regain consciousness from coma but passed away a month later. Sue says she never really harbored any sort of anger for the person who did this to her father and forgiveness was something she opted for from first day. Sue recalls that moment when she went to the hospital for the first time to see her father and was surprised to see the injuries his father had sustained. She could not understand how one human could do this to another. She wondered what kind of pain that person would have been going through to commit such a horrendous act. It was also during this time Sue was able to forget all the past differences she had with her father and love him in that moment. Sue did not speak with her father for past five years and had only reconciled with him a month ago. She believes they were still in the beginning of re-building their father-daughter relation. Sue believes this tragedy helped her gain perspective in life and understand things differently in life.
How it shifted her perspective
Sue says she was overwhelmed by her thoughts because a lot was happening around her. She started writing down things and that led her to journaling. For weeks and for months, Sue kept on writing while sitting next to her father’s bedside in the hospital. She started writing all the disagreement she had with her father and talk to him about it. She learned more about herself, how a human brain works when we are emotionally unbalanced.
What forgiveness means to Sue?
Sue believes forgiveness is for one’s own self and not for others. Sue says forgiveness is “about finding a place at peace that you can go sleep at night and feel okay”. She also believes it is not about condoning the behavior of the person who did this but about gaining perspective on why he did it and forgiving the situation.
How Sue dealt with anger?
Sue started playing women’ football and says she found peace while doing something which demanded a lot of physical work and energy. She persists on gaining perspective in such situations. Sue believes most of the criminals commit crimes because of the way they are brought up and dealt within the society. During the trial, Sue found out that the man, who attacked her father, had been charged 168 times. He was 12 years old when he was charged for the first time and Sue believes the society failed this man as a young boy.
The story of ‘I forgive you’ Mobile App
One night Sue was out for dinner with some friends and had this particular thought in her mind. She felt like writing it in her journal but thought it would be inappropriate to write something in her journal while at a dinner table. Therefore, she took out her mobile phone and saved her notes in it. This was when she first encountered the idea of having an app, which could help someone maintain his or her journal. Her idea of having this particular app evolved with the passage of time and the finished app has five different areas in it. They are divided into following five categories:
You can write messages in the app like a journal, keep them to yourself or send them to a particular person. You can also submit the messages to the app and the app sends a response back. The app is available on iTunes and GoolgePlayStore. It is called ‘I Forgive You’ and it has a picture of swallow as its logo.
Sue has a message for all the people who are undergoing a trauma or struggling with forgiveness. She says one should not focus on forgiving but on what makes them happy. This is because on the path of happiness, forgiveness will come as a part of that journey.
You can connect with Sue on following social media platforms
Link for the mobile app is
For GooglePlayStore: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.sue.iforgiveyou
My guest today is Gabrielle Bernstein. She is a motivational speaker, life coach and author. Bernstein has written three books. Bernstein has also worked as a public relations entrepreneur and founded the PR firm SparkPlug Communications as well as co-founding the Women’s Entrepreneurial Network, a non-profit professional organization that connects female entrepreneurs. In this episode, she talks about trusting your intuitive wisdom and receiving signs from the universe. She shares her story of searching for a new home, difficulties and doubts she faced in the process and how eventually it led her heightening her own intuition.
Gabrielle tells about that part of her life when she and her husband decided to buy their first home. Naturally it seemed like a very inspiring idea and they were very excited with what was about to come in their lives. Gabrielle lived in New York and when she started looking for her new home but soon realized hunting for homes in New York is not really a lot of fun. She believes she started this journey at the time when real estate prices were all time high. She along with her husband searched for various apartments in Brooklyn and Manhattan but all in vain. She felt offended and “this isn’t fun” become her husband’s mantra in reference to looking for a new home. Naturally, negativity stepped in and Gabrielle believes this was the first step which blocked her intuition. The trip to a particular house in Brooklyn was the last nail in the coffin for the couple. Gabrielle felt like it was the most haunted house she had ever walked into. It had that one particular glass case which was full of dolls and Gabrielle felt like they were all staring at her. She went back home and realized it was her negative energy which had completely blocked her intuition and put her life in jeopardy.
On her return home, there came a moment when Gabrielle’s inner voice said, “Do what you do best” so she did. She prayed and felt like all the negativity left instantly. Her husband still had this idea of buying their home in east coast and while he was still hoping to buy a house in New York, Gabrielle came up with this strange idea to look for country houses. She was able to convince her husband and then they stared looking for country houses on Internet. One thing led to another and out of nowhere, the couple found this beautiful mountain house in Connecticut. They set up their appointment and went to see the house. As they were driving up to the mountain, Gabrielle recalls her husband saying, “We are not going to have to look at anything else, I think this is the one.” Looking at the house, and exploring it was the first time in nine months Gabrielle had that feeling that she finally found her home.
Gabrielle and her husband both loved the mountain house. As she went back home, logic started kicking and Gabrielle was once again on path of blocking her self-intuition. She had these ideas that money they had saved must be spend on a proper home in a city rather than a mountain house. A home where she would have her kids go to school, a home, which should be in New York. At this point, she called her psychic friend and asked for guidance. Her friend had recently bought a new home and Gabrielle wanted to know what she did to buy her home. Her friend told Gabrielle that she asked for signs, that her sign was a dragonfly and that Gabrielle should do the same. For some reason, Gabrielle thought her sign was an owl.
The Owl Story
The next time Gabrielle went to the mountain house, she kept looking for owls everywhere. Ironically, the first thing she saw was a dragonfly on a gift card. On her way back home, she talked to her psychic friend and told her she could not find an owl. She told Gabrielle not to worry as she got a sign, a dragonfly that they talked about. Gabrielle went out from her car to get some tea and walk around. When she came back, she saw a massive bumper sticker and it had an owl on it. However, these signs were not enough for Gabrielle to empower her intuition. The couple did make an offer and Gabrielle was in London when her husband told her their offer had been accepted. However, she still was not sure if it was the right choice, her doubts and fears were still blocking her self-intuition. She asked for more signs from God. The same night, Gabrielle happened to go to this church in London, St. James Cathedral. There was a person at the church who would always give postcards to speakers, which had bears on it. That night he approached Gabrielle and gave her two cards. One had bear on it and before Gabrielle saw the other card; she knew it had the owl. It was her sign she asked for and she got it. However, even with these signs, Gabrielle was still in doubt and not achieved that height of self-intuition. However, on her return home Gabrielle realized she had been denying all the signs from the universe, she had been denying the synchronicity, she was denying her own faith, she was denying her own inner voice, that she was relying on fear and on other people. That realization led to the empowerment of her self-intuition for Gabrielle. She knew she had to buy the mountain house and she did it at last.
You can follow and contact Gabrielle Bernstein on following social media platforms.