Karen Frazier is the author of books about metaphysics, crystal healing, energy healing, dream interpretation, and nutrition. As a professional writer, she has written and published over 14 books. She has extensively studied alternative healing, Reiki, hypnotherapy, crystal healing, Feng Shui, dream interpretation, and more.
What was the beginning of your career?
Karen used to write as a little kid. She recently found out some of her poems she had written when she was only seven years old. She has always tried to add writing as a part of her job. She worked as a personal trainer and she turned her job into writing by writing a personal trainer manual. She worked as a patient outreach person in a national health clinic and she turned it into a writing job. During the 2008 recession, she was working as a marketing communication specialist which is actually a marketing writer. The writers were the first to be affected during the recession. Karen saw this as an opportunity to explore herself further as a writer.
Do you think good writing comes naturally?
Karen thinks that an individual can learn to write reasonably well. However, to write in a way that your writing touches people is something that comes naturally.
What is your favorite book that you have written?
She likes her first book about crystals titled ‘Crystals for Healing’ the most. It is the first book in which she talked about energy healing for the first time and she is very passionate and interested in energy healing.
Can you tell us a little bit about the healing powers of crystals?
As a kid, Karen loved collecting rocks. She kept a box of different rocks in her basement. She has always been drawn to rocks. She considers crystals ‘love letters’ from the earth. They have this beautiful earth energy and they have a vibration on their own. When you put something that vibrates at one rate next to something that vibrates at a different rate, the two move into the phase and vibrates more closely together. Pendants and lockets consisting of crystals can be worn to fully utilize the healing power of crystals. If you are low on energy, your vibration will raise to your vibration and you will lock into phase.
What kind of crystals can be used for profit and purpose?
For profit, Karen suggests using green crystals. They are the color of money. The best crystal that can be used for prosperity is called citrine crystal. Karen recommends to place it in the south-east corner of the home or in the cash box or in a wallet. For purpose, any crystal that is a sixth or seventh chakra crystal is good for purpose. Sunstone is good for creativity.
You practice Reiki, can you tell the listeners what exactly Reiki is?
Reiki is a form of hands-on energy healing. It originated in Japan. The way it works is that you place your hands on the person you want to transfer energy to. You can also heal people from distance as well. You can send healing energy to people who are lacking in it. Reiki is a practice in which someone can draw in the energy from someone who is attuned to the energy.
What does being attuned to Reiki mean?
If you want to practice Reiki, you have to go to a class and get yourself aligned with the energy by someone who is already attuned to that energy. This is done through a series of rituals.
Do you think energy is a feeling?
It can be a feeling. Although you don’t have to define it in terms of feelings. Karen believes everything is energy and everything we do moves energy into some kind of an action or form. Our thoughts and the actions we do, as a result, all creative energy. If we direct the energy, then we are likely to get things in our lives that fulfill us.
What is an intention you had that come to its fulfillment?
About nineteen years ago, Karen was in a bad marriage, had a three-year-old son and worked at a job she did not like. Every night she would sit down and write about her feelings and her intentions. She used to write about her good health and to have a job that would fulfill her creatively. She used to write about being in a fulfilling relationship. She used to visualize all of it every night. She did it for almost two months. Within a few years, she was able to get all of these things she used to write about. She got remarried, was in a healthy relationship. She had found herself a new job where she could afford to write from the comfort of her home.
What is an intention you had that did not come to its fruition?
Karen’s body is often her teacher and it reminds her to love herself more. Karen suffers from Celiac disease which means she cannot eat some of the commonly known eatable items like bread. About three years ago, she made an intention to try to get rid of this disease and eat bread. It did not work out for her. Karen says she is happy it did not work out for her because her intention should be to love her body and take in food only that is good for her body.
Do you always write down your intentions?
Karen still writes down her intentions but less frequently. She now visualizes her intentions in meditation now.
What advice would you give to someone who wants to write a book?
If you want to write a book, just sit down and do not censor yourself, just write. Just get everything on paper and then worry about organizing it and arranging it.
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Her father used to say to her to have an open mind all the time. This, she thinks is the best advice she has ever been given. Later in her life, a friend named David said to her that she shouldn’t be so open-minded that her brains fall out.
How can we connect with you?
Jillian Turecki is interviewing podcast host, Anna Goldstein as the interviewee. Jillian has appeared as a guest previously on the podcast. In this podcast, Jillian and Anna talk about coaching and what it means to Anna.
What does being a coach mean to you?
For Anna, being a coach means of great value. She grew up around great coaches. She grew up as a tennis player. She had coaches in her life when she was as young as nine years old. They played a big role in her life from the very beginning. Being a tennis player helped her avoid trouble. It kept her focused. She got into coaching by being a tennis coach which was her first job. She has had the relationship with the word coach from a very long time. She started her company 10 years ago and back then, coaching was completely different from what it is now. Coaching back then was mostly associated with sports. The meaning of it has now changed. Anna doesn’t view herself as somebody who would have all the answers for your problems, but she would try to bring out the best in you, to equip you with tools that would help you perform at your optimal level.
What is the most useful or profound advice you received from your coaches?
She learned a lot about how to deal with loss. Since tennis is an individual sport, when you lose its all on you and when you win, you get all the credit. She would take losing really very hard. She was trained by her coaches to not give up and train harder after a loss. The ability to recover from a loss is something she also integrates into her personal development programs. She also learned about the importance of fundamentals from her coaches.
Whenever we are trying to learn something new, we can get a bit fancy and focus more on advanced topics to learn. However, we should keep revisiting the basics because we can only work in advanced areas if we have solid foundations regardless of the skill or sport we are trying to learn.
How has returning to the fundamentals helped you as an entrepreneur and as a businesswoman?
She got lost after her first job as a tennis coach in New York City. Within 2 years, she got burnt off. She used to work seven days in a week, was available all the time. She jumped from job to job, apartment to apartment and relationship to relationship. That is when she returned to the fundamental of tennis that she had learned all along from her coaches. She used to put herself in a positive state like listen to music or jump a rope before playing tennis. She had a proper diet routine when she used to train for tennis and realized that during her burnout phase, she was not on a proper diet. When her life was out of order, her food was out of order.
You mention that you underwent depression in your past? Why were you depressed and how did you cope with it?
Anna was hard on herself. Her self-talk was demotivating and she was mean to herself. She used to tell herself that she would never be successful in her life, that she was overweight and there was something wrong with her. She always carried along this thought with herself that she was depressed. She wasn’t connected to herself. This is why she is so committed to different spiritual practices because it helps her connect to her inner-self. Meditation helped her a great deal to cope with depression and anxiety. She also hired herself a coach to help her life her life to its full potential.
Is it true that people who get into life coach business need to had to have some sort of experience with difficulties in order to help others?
Anyone who is in this business had to overcome something in their past. People who choose the path to be healers are often people who have looked at it more closely. Coaching is actually a modernized therapy, a form of healing.
How do you think therapy and coaching can be integrated in practice?
If you have a mental condition, you need to hire yourself a therapist or a psychiatrist who can prescribe you medicine. Anna comes in contact with a lot of people who have been in therapy. It is great for developing awareness, learning about yourself. Coaching is about implementation and evolvement into letting go of old identities. Through therapy, you can identify the problem areas and through coaching, you can integrate action items in your life to resolve pain points. Anna herself has undergone therapy in past and also hired a life-coach for herself in her past.
Do you agree that happiness and joy can only come from inside?
Anna thinks it is the starting point for all your joy and happiness. If you do not have certain tools to understand your own mind, nothing that you achieve would be able to help you boost your self-esteem. Meditation helps you get familiar with your mind; every individual’s mind is different. People see reality in different ways. Meditation allows you to look at reality from different angles. Meditation can also help with love and kindness, forgiveness and peace.
PEACE OF MIND: HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING AND GET CLEAR
Dr. Lindsay Padilla is a teaching + learning consultant. As an owner of many degrees, her experience as a sociology professor, and teaching adult learners online —She’s honored to pass on what she’s learned to trailblazing entrepreneurs who want to create digital courses. She now specializes in translating 1:1 client work experiences into signature courses, group programs + membership sites, as well as mapping out instructional content.
How did you get into academia?
She always knew she wanted to be a teacher. She kept following that path growing up. She worked up towards becoming a high school teacher. She started her teaching career by teaching eight graders while her friends were still partying in college. She got her first sociology class because her mentor gave this one class to her. She fell in love with sociology and realized the potential of sociology at a high school level. She decided to get a master’s degree in sociology. That put her on the path of graduate school. In her graduate program for sociology, she had a course called ‘Teaching Sociology’. It is very rare to have a teaching course in a grad school.
Do you think our educational system can be limiting and we do not always need a college degree to something valuable in our lives?
Lindsay thinks it’s a very complicated matter. As a sociologist, Lindsay gets to study about society, people, institutions and large mainstream patterns of our culture, their origin and how they impact us. The labor market is tied to the school system. She believes we have been stuck in very traditional ways of delivering education. We live in a credential society, which demands a degree to get certain jobs and unlock certain things in life. This is what we are told and this is what is only partially true.
What made you transition out of academia and into entrepreneurship?
Lindsay recently started a podcast in January called Academics mean business. She has been an entrepreneur for almost two years now. Two years ago in summers, she was getting paid by clients for helping them create courses. She has been teaching online for the past six to seven years. She was always the professor on campus who was known for conducting online meetings with her students. She had a lot to share with entrepreneurs starting online programs around teaching and learning. She helped various clients with it. She saw the potential of transitioning from academia to entrepreneurship. Lindsay felt she could have a greater impact on people around her if she became an entrepreneur.
What do you think makes a good teacher?
Lindsay believes everyone is a teacher. Lindsay believes it is something very common among all human beings. We teach our children, pass knowledge on to our friends and family. Teaching is about an outcome. As a teacher, one needs to set by themselves certain goals that they can help an individual or a group of people achieve through their teachings. Good teaching comes from the inner self of the teacher. A teacher needs to be aligned with the knowledge he or she intends to share. Lindsay says there is a lot of impostor syndrome in the realm of online teaching. Many people doubt if the online courses and online teachers can actually help others and if their knowledge itself is self-sufficient. This prevents a lot of good teachers to put up their courses online. Good teaching comes from being your true self in communicating what you know. Many teachers try to build an authority around themselves and it drains out all the excitement from learning. A lot of research has been carried around this issue and the results indicate that teachers who try to undermine students are responsible for creating an environment which diminishes learning and the power of education as well. Good teaching comes from interaction with students, listening to them, working on the feedback received from students and doing it better the next time.
How do you make online learning experiential?
We have to work with the medium that is transporting the knowledge. Online interaction can never be like a face-to-face interaction. When it comes to online education and the incorporation of experiential learning, a big part of learning is to motivate students to try out various things themselves that they can learn from the course. We need to make sure we have the required information in our online courses that can help students take their first action step and explore further on the basis of things they can learn from our courses. We need to support them and guide them in this phase of experimentation.
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
“Done is better than perfect. Everyone is doing the best they can”.
It is more of a daily mantra for Lindsay. It helps her get going in her business and she knows the end result may not always be perfect but she needs to keep moving in her life, to strive for better outcomes no matter what. This also helps her to be compassionate with others because she believes people around her, in their limited capacity, try to do things in the best possible manner.
How can we connect with you?
Her website: http://www.lindsaympadilla.com
Karen Salmansohn is known for creating a new breed of highly graphic and feisty self-help books — like her best sellers How To Be Happy, Dammit, Prince Harming Syndrome, Instant Happy and The Bounce Back Book — self-help books that she describes as being for "people who would never be caught dead reading self-help books" She has sold over 1 million books. Her research-backed happiness tools have been featured on CNN, Oprah, Psychology Today, The Today Show, etc – and will empower you to live a live of love! Recently she launched an inspirational jewelry line on HSN.com. Her jewelry line is a combination of her passion for design and short inspirational sayings to pick you up. In this episode we talk about how she transitioned her career in advertising to becoming an author and entrepreneur, the value of doing things differently/thinking outside the traditional route, how to manage worrying and so much more.
How did you get into the jewelry business?
Karen says she is a writer who loves to design. Karen loves to play with words as she is a writer and she loves to merge words with design. Karen has worked in ad-agencies in past and she knows how only a few words can be made so powerful with a good and illustrative design. Karen says it was not that far of a leap from designing books that had short powerful word combination to designing jewelry which had short powerful word combination.
How did you get onto this path of writing books?
Karen says she started off as a funny writer who loved psychology. As a kid, Karen used to read magazines such as psychology today and mad magazine. She took a lot of jokes from these magazines and added in her books. Karen loves to add humor in her writings and always likes to laugh about life. It has been a part of her personality from a very long time. The first book that she wrote was not about self-help, it was actually a novel with a touch of humor. Karen says when she started righting self-help books, most of the books already published were not funny or humorous to read. Karen herself felt embarrassed whenever she read a self-help book. She did not want anyone to see her reading a self-help book. When she decided to write such a book, she felt it should be written in a way that someone caught reading it shouldn’t feel embarrassed. She wanted to purposefully write self-help that feels funny and entertaining. She noticed there was a gap in the market. It is also how she naturally writes.
How did you get started in writing self-help books?
Karen always loved psychology and philosophy. She loved playing with words and pictures. Karen’s major was in psychology and was a philosophy minor. She found herself a job in an advertising agency because she felt that is where she had to be. She thought she could merge psychology and her love for writing and design, all in her job. She felt it would be satisfying for her. However, Karen did not like this job and felt she was selling her soul. She felt she needed to write more. She started to write her first novel. Even after writing a bunch of novels and publishing them, Karen still found herself reading psychology and philosophy. It was still her guilty pleasure. It was always a part of her personality. One day she went to a buy a wedding gift for her friend. She wanted to get something special and unique. She came across this book titled ‘The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying’. She loved the design on the cover of the book and felt like giving it as a gift to her friend. However, she was not sure of giving the book to her friend before reading it herself. She got herself a copy and read the book. She was greatly moved after reading the book. She became so obsessed with it and would talk about it all the time. That is what got her to write her first self-help book titled ‘How to be Happy, Dammit’ which became an instant best-seller.
What stood out the most to you in that book?
It was a Buddhist book. Karen never came across a book in which so many aspects were put together in a coherent manner. It talked about Buddhism, psychology, and neuroscience in a concise and well-organized manner.
Did you face any initial rejections when you started to write books?
Her first published book was a novel. She sent the book out on a Friday with a beach towel and a bottle of suntan lotion to the publishers. She did it to stand out and told the editors the book would make good beach reading. She got an offer next Wednesday for this novel. To get a contract for her first novel, she really did not face rejections of any kind and was lucky enough to publish it without any major hindrance.
Can you give some tips on anxiety, depression and pursuing one’s dreams?
Karen writes a lot about anxiety. She wrote a book titled ‘The Bounce Back Book’ In which she talks about resiliency and how people can bounce back from tough times. She also launched a course on her new video learning site (https://mastersinlife.com) for the anxiety cure. She wrote the bounce book because she had gone through sexual assault. It was a very challenging time for Karen. She started to stress a lot after that incident and gained weight.
What action step would you suggest to someone wanting to turn their passion into a pay check?
Karen herself was in a job she did not like. She thinks we need to believe in ourselves. Find out how other people are doing the work that you do, see if there is something different you can do to turn your work into your passion. Karen also suggests one needs to have a concrete plan because following your passion without a plan can be a problem. Karen started to freelance when she had a job in advertising. She knew she wanted to write but also wanted to make sure money would not be a problem when she would start writing her novel.
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
The best advice she has been given has been passed down to generations in her family. Her grandmother used to say this to her mother who in turn would say the following words to Karen “If you keep doing what you are always doing, you will keep getting what you are always getting”. It simply means if you want different results in your life, you need to do something different.
How can we connect with you?